Category: Let's talk
I don't know if this kind of thing shows up in my profile, so I'll unfortunately have to make a post here. If anyone is interested in contacting me, you'll have to write me a private note, because I've shut off all Quicknotes, public and private. You may now scream at me for making a totally pointless post, which I will laugh at and ignore. Hehehehehehe!
no problem, I posted amessage along the same lines, just so people wouldn't think I was a snob for not responding if they sent me a quicknote and I didn't answer. I didn't know at the time, that your user name wasn't listed in the quicknote combo if you have them off, and if I send some a quicknote and he/she doesn't respond, I shrug and say to myself, oh well, cliquish, and my brain immediately puts him or her in the delete file, hahaha.
wonderwoman
I wouldn't write people off as cliquish just because they didn't write me back in a Quicknote. Nobody is obligated to write me back or pay a bit of attention to me here. I know I got a lot of people I don't even know or see on these boards write me a private note just saying Hey and I didn't respond, but it wasn't that I was arrogant, but I was involved in other things and didn't want to chat to some total stranger. I just don't feel comfy doing that in a live situation. Let somebody write me a private note from my profile if they find me interesting. I got the impression these folks wrote me because I had just logged in. Anyhow, it's just a preference thing in the end. I came here to post on the boards and check out the site, not win popularity contests. Let them think I'm a snob if that is really the only alternative. Hehehe!
okay. we'll just send you pqn's then
I agree the quicknotes were a royal pain in the butt..I wouldn't call you a snob, elitest maybe, smile
Another thing to keep in mind if you send someone a qn and don't get a response; just because they appear online doesn't mean they are. I think there is something like 10 minutes before the site actually dumps the user name, and any qn that is sent to them is sent out into never never land. Plus, like me, they may have stepped away from their keys, and by the time they've gotten back you've gotten offline; or they actually have been dropped, and by the time they get it all taken care of and they're logged back in they've forgotten some of the messages they got and intended on answering before getting dropped...There always could be a reason for someone not responding, and to assume it's for one specific reason is...Well, assuming.
easy solved! why can't they just log out?
Because sometimes you are called away in an emergency and don't have the time, and the site not dropping the nick immediately has to do with the programming of the servers, and I'm quite sure the admins have their reasons for keeping it the way it is. Let's put the first part of my answer this way. No one is perfect, emergencies happen, whether it's my best friend calling; or her son's school, because of some colamity, my husband needing my help with something, my Mom calling because of problems with the family...Either way, logging out of the zone is one of the last things on my mind.
no Labyrinth, I wasn't saying you were a snob, smile. No, if someone doesn't answer my qn, I forget about him/her very quickly, and never am the first to quick note them again. I don't use quicknotes often, public notes, well I won't bother explaining why I don't use them, since I've already said, and will just get verbally blasted if I explain it again. Privatenotes, well, I'm not a multitasker, so when someone sends me a qn, I respond instantly, but what usually happens is they start quicknoting this person, that person, playing anagrams or what not, and I prefer quicknotes with someone who is like minded, that is, I'd rather talk to someone who likes talking one on one, and doesn't start doing a bunch of things and just leave me hanging, wondering if they're going to answer me or not. I'm not talking about anyone I might quicknote, I don't quicknote anyone first, partly for that reason. I mean, I'm just reading board messages, whatever, have all notes off, then someone pm's me, like they want to chat, so I turn quicknotes on, they take some ten or 15 minutes to respond, and don't even tell me what happened. It's like they have to be talking to 4 or 5 other people and doing a host of other things while they're talking to me, so just in case they get bored talking to one person, they have this other person, etc. Well, if they were the ones who quicknoted me to start off with, when they want to do other things, they should let me know and just give me the option of signing off.The way I see it, if you get that bored talking to me, you don't need to start the conversation in the first place. I get bored when people use me to multitask, and I don't let them do it. Of course, if they are a fast and good enough multitasker, and I can't tell it, I don't mind, but when they start taking 5, ten, minutes or longer to respond, I'm just sitting there waiting, and I get bored and impatient. That's the reason I don't use quicknotes often. I like it as a feature though, and if I ever find a person who feels the same way about it as I do, quick notes could be very enjoyable indeed.
wonderwoman
I know you weren't, but I figured other people would. People can't help but judge, you know. Hahahaha!
well, the few times I've hadquicknotes on, I don't remember you ever saying anything, so I thought maybe you were just there to read board posts, or play games, and I'm usually not one to quicknote someone first, even if I have them on. I'm always a little hesitant about being the first to qn someone. I know of course, if everyone were like me in that way, quicknotes would remain forever silent, but I'm just that way. It's partly because I don't feel I'm in the right group here. There are one or 2 people in our age group scattered here and there, besides me and cat lover, but they seem not to want to be bothered, so I don't bother them.
wonderwoman
I'd chime in on a public conversation now and then if I had anything to say, but that didn't happen much.
I know what you mean, and the teens and 20 somethings will want to kill me, but since you can't murder someone over the computer, I'm going to say it anyway. We need more and more older people here, and for a while, I hoped, and thought if older people came on here and seenone or two older people here, they'd come on here, but now that I've been here a little over a year, I have my doubts. It may be bad form for me to say it, because I feel this isn't really our site anyway, it belongs to the younger folks, but it would be nice if there were enough older people to have our own board, but now I think that will probably never happen,
wonderwoman
It's not that it belongs to them and not us, it just attracts a majority of them. Personally, I don't give a damn who it belongs to. I'm here to post, not make zillions of friends and win popularity contests. If I make friends along the way, that's cool, but I won't push hte issue. I ahve other on-line outlets ot make friends with.
yeah, I wouldn't want to be too popular anyway, then you'd have too many people wanting you to be in too many places at once. I think to be popular, you have to think, or at least make one group of people think you agree with them, tnen, turn around and make the other group think you agree with them. That will never be me. I don't think there is such a thing as any one person being universally liked or disliked. I think personalities, and liking or disliking certain personalities is a lot like liking or disliking food. Some people are like quinine and vinegar and onions mixed together, and some are like honey and peanut butter mixed together over warm toast. That sounded a little crazy, probably but those comparisons just pop into my head without warning, and I just said it as it came. Straight out of my head and on the keyboard, hah hah,
wonderwoman
I'll not argue with you on that, because I'm the last person to ask about popularity. I just feel if I keep too high a profile that it will make me vulnerable to people spreading rumors and causing drama, and unfortunately I am imposing a no-more-drama clause on the rest of my life, so there, too! Hahahahahahaha!
yeah, too much drama is too much. I usually only make about one or 2 friends, per any site, email list etc, that I ever join. I think, that since I'm blind and have the soft bone thing as an additional handicap, it means I have even less in common with with others than anyone else. It seems to me, that the more disabilities you have, the less likely you are to find folks you have much in common with, therefore, I don't have much in common with either blind or sighted people.
wonderwoman
It just occurred to me. Goblin jokingly referred to me as an elitist. According to dictionary.com, the definition is:
n : someone who believes in rule by an elite group [ant:
egalitarian]
Is that me? Hahahahahaha! And no, I'm not being serious, but that *is* the definition I found.
well, I don't think I'd describe you as elite, because I've always thought of elite as being part of a rich group of snobs who think they're better than anyone else, and just treat people who they feel is beneath them as if they weren't there. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's what I've always thought an ilitist was.
wonderwoman